In many of my friendships and working relationships, I have been exeperiencing miscommunication more often than usual. Reflecting on this, I'm trying to make sure that I am as clear as possible on my side of the conversation...listening with open ears and acting on my promises.
Edwin H. Friedman wrote the following and I am finding it particularly valuable to my life right now.
"The Failure of Syntax"
"The colossal misunderstanding of our time is the assumption that insight will work with people who are unmotivated to change. Communication does not depend on syntax, or eloquence, or rhetoric, or articulation but on the emotional context in which the message is being heard. People can only hear you when they are moving toward you, and they are not likely to when your words are pursuing them. Even the choices words lose their power when they are used to overpower. Attitudes are the real figures of speech."
I guess we could all work more on saying what we mean and doing what we say. Actions are the backbone to words.
Peace,
Jess
Monday, October 29, 2007
Thursday, October 25, 2007
Saturday, November 17th - What Have You Done For Them Lately?
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Saturday, November 17, 2007
Revitalize presents:
What Have You Done For Them Lately?
A Party for our Troops
Click here for a list of items our troops have requested!
Music provided by Becky, Adil and Cub
10PM - 2:30AM
Crooked Bayou
50 East Central Blvd.
Orlando, FL 32801
$5 suggested donation, 21 and up
Hope to see you out!
Monday, October 22, 2007
Stand on your good leg
Things aren't exactly peachy keen jelly bean in my life right now, especially after re-injuring my already damaged leg last week. But instead of focusing on everything that isn't going well, I will concentrate on everything that rules. I refuse to give in to any sort of sadness or despair; rather I will opt to direct my energy into completing projects that will enhance my future. A wise woman once said, "If you have time to be depressed, you're not busy enough," and I believe she was right. Now is not the time to wallow in self pity, or wish things were different; now is the time to act and fix the things that are broken. I will put all my weight on my good leg as I move forward through this crazy life of mine.
Maybe I will never be
All the things that I want to be
Now is not the time to cry
Now’s the time to find out why
-- Oasis, Live Forever
Sending love to your bad leg strength to your good one,
Becky
xoxoxoxo
Maybe I will never be
All the things that I want to be
Now is not the time to cry
Now’s the time to find out why
-- Oasis, Live Forever
Sending love to your bad leg strength to your good one,
Becky
xoxoxoxo
Our first volunteering experience - It warmed our hearts!!!
This past Saturday, Ami and I had the opportunity to take part in a Second Harvest Food Bank event - Corn Gleaning in Zellwood. Gleaning was a new term to us so we weren't quite sure what to expect! It turned out to be an amazing way to help the homeless.
We arrived to the farm early that morning. Armed in our overalls, bandana and straw cap, we grabbed two buckets and jumped in the back of a pick up. From there we were driven through the muddy terrain and into the corn field. Eagerly we jumped off the back and went into the field. Basically, we were picking after the machines had already gone through the field. These "leftovers" are then taken to different homeless shelters within Central Florida.
Ami with her first pick of the day:
Some of the other volunteers. According to Amy (one of the head volunteers from Society of St. Andrew) we picked 12,000 lbs that day!!!:
It was so amazing to see all of the kids that were involved!!! It was very empowering. Lugging those buckets full of corn wasn't an easy task, but anytime the going got tough, we smiled and laughed, knowing what we were doing was so important and helpful.
Me with my bucket:
Working together to help the community is one of the things we are all about. It felt so amazing to be up at such an early hour on a Saturday to help. We left feeling accomplished that by giving our time, we are adding hope to someone's life.
Be on the lookout for our next opportunity to help make our world a better place! Next time we hope to see you there. You'll definately get a big high five from us!
With lots of love,
Jess
We arrived to the farm early that morning. Armed in our overalls, bandana and straw cap, we grabbed two buckets and jumped in the back of a pick up. From there we were driven through the muddy terrain and into the corn field. Eagerly we jumped off the back and went into the field. Basically, we were picking after the machines had already gone through the field. These "leftovers" are then taken to different homeless shelters within Central Florida.
Ami with her first pick of the day:
Some of the other volunteers. According to Amy (one of the head volunteers from Society of St. Andrew) we picked 12,000 lbs that day!!!:
It was so amazing to see all of the kids that were involved!!! It was very empowering. Lugging those buckets full of corn wasn't an easy task, but anytime the going got tough, we smiled and laughed, knowing what we were doing was so important and helpful.
Me with my bucket:
Working together to help the community is one of the things we are all about. It felt so amazing to be up at such an early hour on a Saturday to help. We left feeling accomplished that by giving our time, we are adding hope to someone's life.
Be on the lookout for our next opportunity to help make our world a better place! Next time we hope to see you there. You'll definately get a big high five from us!
With lots of love,
Jess
Picnic in the Park!
With the season changing and the weather becoming much more bearable, we figured it was time for a picnic party!! We hope you can join us for our first Picnic in the Park!!
And this isn't just any old picnic -- it's a picnic with a purpose! Revitalize has adopted three Platoons stationed in Afghanistan and we are collecting items to send them! They've requested some specific items: energy bars, toiletries, videos of recent TV shows, board games and beef jerky to name a few. For more details and to view a list of items you can donate as well as photos of the soldiers, click here.
As the date gets closer, we'll update with more info about our exact location within this beautiful park! We hope to see you there!
2PM - Dark
Langford Park
1808 East Central Blvd.
Click here to view the Evite and RSVP!
Friday, October 19, 2007
A message to all women....
IF A MAN WANTS YOU
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man. Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always knows where you are, and your always readily available to him- he can take it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
BY THE WAY, THIS WAS WRITTEN BY A MAN ;-)
Always remember what you are worth. xoxoxoxo~Lovebug
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man. Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always knows where you are, and your always readily available to him- he can take it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
BY THE WAY, THIS WAS WRITTEN BY A MAN ;-)
Always remember what you are worth. xoxoxoxo~Lovebug
Monday, October 15, 2007
Live to give
So often I'm so consumed with my own challenges that I don't open my eyes wide enough to see what's happening around me. From large scale issues like the environmnent, to friends in emotional need to the woes of hunger in my neighborhood, nothing seems to be as bad as what I'm going through.
Sort of sad, huh? But we are all like this at times. It is so easy to try to fix you, and turn your shoulder to what's going on around you. It's easy to think the world revolves around you. But really, you revolve around the world. Helping others can honestly end up helping you.
These next few weeks are pretty hectic for me, but when I really break down what I am doing, my heart warms. Volunteering, adopting a Platoon and reaching out to the community are just a few important ways I'll give back. And although I don't feel the best and may want to whine about not having enough time for anything (it's just how I feel sometimes), I will live to give.
All of the positive energy I give will come back to me ten fold. Not only will that energy strenthen my soul, but it will help solve my own challenges.
Hoping you choose to give,
Jess
Sort of sad, huh? But we are all like this at times. It is so easy to try to fix you, and turn your shoulder to what's going on around you. It's easy to think the world revolves around you. But really, you revolve around the world. Helping others can honestly end up helping you.
These next few weeks are pretty hectic for me, but when I really break down what I am doing, my heart warms. Volunteering, adopting a Platoon and reaching out to the community are just a few important ways I'll give back. And although I don't feel the best and may want to whine about not having enough time for anything (it's just how I feel sometimes), I will live to give.
All of the positive energy I give will come back to me ten fold. Not only will that energy strenthen my soul, but it will help solve my own challenges.
Hoping you choose to give,
Jess
Friday, October 12, 2007
You Rule!
One of my favorite messages ever!
A community service reminder... from the Universe:
YOU RULE.
Your gifts are innumerable.
Your insights are profound.
Your choices are endless.
Your touch is healing.
Your thoughts become things.
Your power is indescribable.
And you are loved and adored, on moment to moment basis, more than you can now understand.
YOU RULE.
xoxoxoxo
Becky
A community service reminder... from the Universe:
YOU RULE.
Your gifts are innumerable.
Your insights are profound.
Your choices are endless.
Your touch is healing.
Your thoughts become things.
Your power is indescribable.
And you are loved and adored, on moment to moment basis, more than you can now understand.
YOU RULE.
xoxoxoxo
Becky
Tuesday, October 9, 2007
Peace Rally - Downtown Orlando 10/27
United for Peace and Justice is coordinating an eleven city- simultaneous Peace Rally.
At 12:30, meet at Lake Eola with your peaceful and positive vibes. It's important that we voice our thoughts of peace when we actually have a chance.
I'll definately be there, and may be joined by the rest of the Revitalize Crew. Come out! Get involved! It can do nothing but help.
Check out their website for updated info: http://www.oct27.org/orlando
Peace,
Jess
At 12:30, meet at Lake Eola with your peaceful and positive vibes. It's important that we voice our thoughts of peace when we actually have a chance.
I'll definately be there, and may be joined by the rest of the Revitalize Crew. Come out! Get involved! It can do nothing but help.
Check out their website for updated info: http://www.oct27.org/orlando
Peace,
Jess
Monday, October 8, 2007
Do It!
Allow Your Own Inner Light to Guide You
There comes a time when you must stand alone.
You must feel confident enough within yourself to follow your own dreams.
You must be willing to make sacrifices.
You must be capable of changing and rearranging your priorities so that your final goal can be achieved.
Sometimes, familiarity and comfort need to be challenged.
There are times when you must take a few extra chances and create your own realities.
Be strong enough to at least try to make your life better.
Be confident enough that you won't settle for a compromise just to get by.
Appreciate yourself by allowing yourself the opportunities to grow, develop, and find your true sense of purpose in this life.
Don't stand in someone else's shadow when it's your sunlight that should lead the way.
Big Hugs!
Lovebug
There comes a time when you must stand alone.
You must feel confident enough within yourself to follow your own dreams.
You must be willing to make sacrifices.
You must be capable of changing and rearranging your priorities so that your final goal can be achieved.
Sometimes, familiarity and comfort need to be challenged.
There are times when you must take a few extra chances and create your own realities.
Be strong enough to at least try to make your life better.
Be confident enough that you won't settle for a compromise just to get by.
Appreciate yourself by allowing yourself the opportunities to grow, develop, and find your true sense of purpose in this life.
Don't stand in someone else's shadow when it's your sunlight that should lead the way.
Big Hugs!
Lovebug
Friday, October 5, 2007
Monday, October 1, 2007
Expect the unexpected
The most random things happen when you least expect them. Sometimes good, sometimes bad, unexpectedness is lurking around every corner. I can't even remember how many times I have looked through my 20/20 hindsight goggles and thought, "Wow, if only I had known that was about to happen, maybe I would have done something differently."
So go ahead and just let go -- you have no clue what is about to happen to you.
xoxoxoxo
Becky
So go ahead and just let go -- you have no clue what is about to happen to you.
xoxoxoxo
Becky
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