Is the Grass Greener?

Sometimes life can be tough and we mislead ourselves to assume that almost everyone around us has it better or easier. We think the grass is greener on the other side and most of the time we are completely wrong.

Try to remember that everyone has their struggles and probably a lot of the same struggles you sometimes feel or experience. Try your best not to think that others have it so great and you have it so bad. Try to ignore those thoughts whispering in your ear …"she doesn't have self esteem issues, because she is thinner" "he has it so much easier, because he makes more money" "they are not lonely because they have each other" …. the list goes on and on.

Know that you are not alone and that we all have great moments in our lives as well as hard times. We all go through difficult experiences, we all have moments when we feel like we don't have enough money and we all have times where we wish we looked differently. The goal is to try not to compare yourself to others and try not to concentrate on what may not be going right for you at the moment. Instead, be happy for people when it seems things are going great for them and be happy for yourself for the things that are wonderful in your life. No matter how hard things may seem, the wonderful things still exist. Sometimes we just let ourselves be blind to the beauty that surrounds us, because all we let ourselves see is what we are unhappy with.

Do not be blind anymore. Then maybe your life and everyone else's life around you will make you SMILE!

Much Love Always!
Lovebug

Fighting the Green-Eyed Monster

I don't think a lot of people would look to the Beastie Boys for insight, but today I found it in their song Pass the Mic:

"I give thanks for inspiration
It guides my mind along the way
A lot of people get jealous, they're talking about me
But that's just 'cause they haven't got a thing to say
Everybody's rappin' like it's a commercial
Acting like life is a big commercial
So this is what I've got to say to you all
Be true to yourself and you will never fall"

This past weekend, a friend and I were discussing jealousy. When someone achieves something great, it seems there is always another person who is jealous of the accomplishment. This envy can breed contempt and low self-esteem, which can lead one to gossip in an effort to feel like a bigger person.

But we're all human and it's virtually impossible to avoid the feeling of jealousy. So the next time you feel jealous, ask yourself why. Figure out what you need to change about your own circumstances to get yourself where you want to be. Focus on yourself and your own goals, rather than the person who ignited the envious feelings. Because if you have time to talk shit about what someone else is doing, you're probably not busy enough working toward your own objectives.

Be true to yourself and you will never fall. Thanks, M.I.K.E. to the D.

-Becky